You're Never Going To "Make It"
Bet that got your attention! I’m usually so positive and encouraging so what the heck is this all about?
Stick with me- I’m about to take you on a few emotional bumps but I promise it ends well...
There will not be a day when you realize you’ve made it. Each tiny step you make forward will come with a challenge and a choice. That choice is you either acknowledge that the challenge means you’ve leveled up or you view the challenge as a roadblock -
At NO point in your journey will you feel like you’ve hit the end of the road and guess what...that is 𝒩𝑜𝓇𝓂𝒶𝓁!
Let me give you an example. I have spent many many years building a music career. Countless hours, tears, sweat and blood (I once cut my toe open on a file folder...true story)
I would tell myself things like “If I get to play live shows and get paid then I know I’ve 𝑀𝒶𝒹𝑒 𝒾𝓉” -160 dates a year later and I forgot about that vow to myself and say “If I get to 5,000 likes, I know I’ve 𝑀𝒶𝒹𝑒 𝒾𝓉” -8300 likes later I told myself another story and instead of feeling damn good about it what I had accomplished, I felt defeated because I still didn’t feel like “𝐼 𝑀𝒶𝒹𝑒 𝒾𝓉”
This is where perspective comes in and boy is it a 𝒢𝒶𝓂𝑒 𝒞𝒽𝒶𝓃𝑔𝑒𝓇!!
Once I was able to acknowledge that I’m 𝒩𝑒𝓋𝑒𝓇 going to 𝐹𝑒𝑒𝓁 like I’ve “𝑀𝒶𝒹𝑒 𝒾𝓉” and instead started focusing on accomplishing goals and then setting more goals my whole world changed.
Now, I never want to feel like I’ve
“𝑀𝒶𝒹𝑒 𝒾𝓉” because that means it’s game over. The journey is finished and I don’t ever want this journey to end. I want to keep unfolding what is possible. I want to keep chasing those goals down and smashing them and then building more. See what I’m saying?
There is also a special kind of peace of mind when you stop trying to “make it” and start acknowledging what you’ve accomplished so far.
You see, the “𝐼 𝑀𝒶𝒹𝑒 𝒾𝓉” road has no destination. It keeps going and going and going because as you grow you will face new challenges and it is those challenges that allow you to level up or back down.
Money is one measurement of success in our culture. We have always heard people say things like, “If I win the lotto then I’ll have really made it” but don’t you think that winning the lottery comes with it’s own set of challenges? It doesn’t mean that your life is set. We think it would be but it won’t be. Some of my most interesting conversations have been with a friend who is extremely accomplished and wealthy. This person reminds me often that this level of success and the wealth comes with just as many, if not more, challenges and that many days those challenges are overwhelming. This person doesn’t feel like they have “𝑀𝒶𝒹𝑒 𝒾𝓉 “ even though we all really view it as they have. They are still trying to find the peace that comes with accepting the challenges.
I never want you to feel like you aren’t successful. You ARE!! I want to encourage you to make a list of all of the things you wished you had accomplished 10 years ago. What was important then? Have you accomplished some of those things? Have you given yourself credit for them? This is “making it” friends.... THIS is how we feel darn good about ourselves!
Keep going. Set goals. Smash goals. Set more. Smash more. You’re all superstars in my eyes!